September 2020 – Positive Thinking
Trying to stay positive when things change by the day, or sometimes even by the hour, can be a real struggle. Even with the best of coping strategies in place, worries and concerns can ramp up and create negative self-talk, or “inner dialogue that can hinder your ability to believe in yourself and your own abilities in reaching your potential”.
Examples of negative self-talk can be things such as asking yourself, “why can’t I ever do something right?” or thinking “there’s no use in even trying.” These types of phrases can lead to decreased motivation, increased feelings of helplessness and even depression. Learning how to transform your negative thoughts into positive ones requires patience and practice. However, your efforts to embrace a positive mindset will build your resiliency, self-confidence and emotional wellbeing.
To help you get started, try following these tips:
- Identify the Problems – the first step in overcoming a problem is determining what the cause of it is. Think about the areas of your life that cause you to start negative self-talk, such as specific accounts or topics on social media or in the news. If you have a difficult time pinpointing these areas of yourself, try reaching out to those closest to you to see if they have noticed any changes in your mood or behavior.
- Turn the Negatives into Positives – once the specific causes of your negative self-talk have been identified, you can begin to take the active steps to turn those thoughts into positive ones. Whenever you find yourself find a situation where you begin to engage in negative self-talk, focus on the parts of the situation that can benefit you. For example, maybe you begin to think you cannot accomplish a specific task at work. You start telling yourself you will mess it up and will get in trouble for it. However, you can take that feeling and turn it into an opportunity to reach out to a coworker for advice on how they may handle the project. This can help put you at ease and feel more confident in the task going forward while also acting as an opportunity to learn and expand your skillset.
- Remember, No One is Perfect – between your responsibilities at work and at home, it’s important to remember that it’s okay to make mistakes and that no one is perfect. Often times, when you believe you have done something wrong or were unsuccessful, you begin to become absorbed in negative self-talk. When this happens to you, acknowledge the emotions you are feeling and remind yourself that it is okay to feel this way. By learning to forgive yourself and let go of negative thoughts and feelings, you allow yourself to be a more open and accepting person.
- Be Patient – just like it’s important to remember that no one is perfect, it is also crucial to remember that change, especially significant change, doesn’t happen overnight. You may feel frustrated at the start, but by being patient, taking things one day at a time and leaning on your support system for help can make the journey to positive thinking easier.
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